I happened upon a great new resource for information about placement for your aging parents in nursing facilities. ForMyParent.com offers great resources and advise on issues such as elder abuse and neglect and how to avoid nursing homes with high risk. It's a very user-friendly site which as we all know is very important when dealing with a crisis and having limited time to research and make decisions. Check it out and see what is available in your area.
Friday, October 2, 2015
Thursday, June 25, 2015
How To Decide On Your Loved Ones' End-of-Life Care
By Felicity Dryer
Deciding on end-of-life care is one of the most important
decisions you can make, and there are many factors that go into it, like:
Originally born in Flagstaff, Arizona, Felicity Dryer was raised by her parents (more or less modern-day hippies) to always make her health a top priority. She moved to Los Angeles to pursue her career as a freelance health writer, and continues to help those seeking encouragement to keep moving forward to achieve their goals.
Thanks Felicity!
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How much care is needed?
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How much care can you afford?
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How involved do you want to be?
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Where is the care going to happen?
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Are there any pre-existing directives for care?
All of these are outstanding questions, but they can also be a
little intimidating to answer. Today, I’m going to walk you through the process
of answering these questions and ultimately making a decision you’ll be happy
with.
How Much Care Is Needed?
There’s no point in worrying about the care itself until you
know how much of it you need - a senior who only needs a few pills each week
probably doesn’t need a live-in assistant! Unfortunately, this question is
difficult to answer because none of us know how much care we’re actually going
to need in the last decade or two of our life.
As such, the best
thing to do is talk to your doctor each time there’s a major change in your
loved one’s condition and ask about the kind of help and care they’ll need.
Once you know how much care is needed, you can start focusing on the other
questions.
How Much Care Can You Afford?
Not every household can afford the very best in medical
treatments - but families often find themselves on the hook for payments if
their normal claims are denied. Cost is a real factor in end-of-life care
decisions, but it doesn’t have to be as frightening as you think, especially
when you know how to keep things on a budget.
Once you know what you need,
you can start looking to see how much it costs - and check to see if there are
alternative payments or more affordable alternatives. For example, a permanent
live-in caregiver could be quite costly, but someone who only visits for an
hour or two every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday could be far easier to fit into
your budget.
The most important thing is getting the care your loved ones actually need - and with a little bit of
training, chances are you can give most of that care yourself if necessary.
How Involved Do You Want To Be?
The advice I’ve just given assumes that you want to be involved
in caring for your loved ones as they continue to age - but that’s not true for
every family. Some people honestly don’t want to see the ravages of problems
like disease and dementia, preferring to only create happy memories.
This is a personal decision, and there are no right or wrong
answers. However, you should keep in mind that the more you’re willing to do
yourself, the less the care is likely to cost you. You can also split the care
between several members of your family - if each of you visits on a different
day of the week, you could provide steady and regular care without the stress
of doing it yourself every single day.
Where Is The Care Going To Happen?
The answer to this question is dictated mainly by the answers
to the three above it. Some types of health care require being in a hospital or other long-term care facility, while
others can easily be administered at home with little or no trouble. It’s worth
noting that as seniors continue to age, they’re more likely to need permanent
supervision of some kind - even if you’re willing to live with them for now,
you may want to have a plan for transferring them to a nursing home or other
facility at some point.
Are There Any Pre-Existing Directives For Care?
In a way, this is the most important question to ask - because
some people don’t want extra care.
They may not want to be kept on life support, or continue to stick around if
they’re completely bedridden and rapidly going downhill anyway. This is
especially true if they’re in a great deal of pain.
It’s best to follow these advance decisions as much as
possible. This allows your loved ones to stay in control of their medical
decisions - and allows you to know
that even if their minds are fading now, they’d be happy that you did what they
asked. However, remember that they may change their minds as they continue to
age, and that they’re allowed to do so as long as they remain legally competent
to make their own decisions. Consider revisiting their advance decisions
annually to see if there are any changes they’d like to see made - and stay
informed about the rules and regulations for advance directives.
Originally born in Flagstaff, Arizona, Felicity Dryer was raised by her parents (more or less modern-day hippies) to always make her health a top priority. She moved to Los Angeles to pursue her career as a freelance health writer, and continues to help those seeking encouragement to keep moving forward to achieve their goals.
Thanks Felicity!
Thursday, April 16, 2015
National Healthcare Decisions Day
It's only fitting yesterday was Tax Day and today we need to talk about Dying. The only two guarantees in life: Death and Taxes. National Healthcare Decisions Day is hugely important to each of us not only for our own decisions but for our friends and family as well.
I recently participated in a Blog Carnival on my nursing blog about End-Of-Life Decisions. It's a wonderful conglomeration of experiences from a variety of nurses and from many different points of view. You might be well served to check these out as it's obvious even nurses struggle with discussing death and dying. My blog post talks to the point that these decisions empower us.
As nurses, we've seen it from many points of view as the loved ones, the friends, and from the healthcare professional vantage point. We've seen our own families and friends struggle to make heart wrenching decisions when their loved ones did not tell them their wishes, and had to support others deal with the decisions their loved ones did make that don't always make sense in the moment.
As nurses we've also seen families fight amongst themselves over which way to proceed once it becomes clear the person isn't going to recover from the event or illness. One thing comes through loud and clear is that when the patient has not made decisions and has not discussed wishes even on a very hypothetical basis, it's even harder to have to make decisions for them. And when no one person or persons is made the DPOAHC (durable power of attorney for health care), families can completely destruct over who's making the decision and why? All this at a time when they need the love and support of each other.
Caution: Graphic Explanation Follows
A common conversation among nurses is often, "where shall I tattoo NO CPR? On my forehead or my chest?" Let's get some facts straight. Resuscitation is painful both physically and emotionally!! And the pain can last for a very long time and hinder any possible recovery. Ribs can easily be broken and organs punctured which complicate the process. Even without that possibility, it's painful to have a 200+ pound paramedic pouncing on your chest for any length of time! Using paddles to shock the body sends a painful electrical shock wave through your whole body.
And there are risks depending on how long the patient has been "down" prior to the CPR as well as the effectiveness of the CPR to circulate blood and oxygen to the brain and vital organs. What will the outcome be if the patient is brought back? Will there be tubes needed? A ventilator to support breathing? What extent of brain damage has been done? Has the heart suffered major damage? How will all of this affect the quality of life? Will there be anger or regrets?
What if I Want Everything Done?
YES, you and your loved ones have every right to demand that everything possible be done under any circumstances. And those decisions have to be honored as much as any other end-of-life decision. They can be faith based, fear based, ignorance based as well as based on your own desire to live forever. But they need to be made known to your loved ones and healthcare team as much as any other take on the subject to ensure they are followed.
On the other hand, if you do NOT wish to have heroic measures taken, you have the right to have those wishes followed as well. Advance Directives can be made as specific and complex as you desire. Or they can be vague and give your proxy to your an agent of your choosing to make the best decision based on the situation at hand.
These decisions need to be made and discussed with your loved ones LONG BEFORE there is a need to implement them. This is not just for those who are old or are in poor health. If you got hit by a bus crossing the street and complications set in, what path do you want your health care team to take? And is your family prepared to comply with your wishes? Have that discussion with your loved ones Today. Make informed choices. There are NO right or wrong answers, but the questions and options need to be discussed.
Further Reading:
Today's the Day to Talk About How You Want to Die
Advanced Care Planning Resources
End of Life: Helping with Comfort and Care
I recently participated in a Blog Carnival on my nursing blog about End-Of-Life Decisions. It's a wonderful conglomeration of experiences from a variety of nurses and from many different points of view. You might be well served to check these out as it's obvious even nurses struggle with discussing death and dying. My blog post talks to the point that these decisions empower us.
As nurses, we've seen it from many points of view as the loved ones, the friends, and from the healthcare professional vantage point. We've seen our own families and friends struggle to make heart wrenching decisions when their loved ones did not tell them their wishes, and had to support others deal with the decisions their loved ones did make that don't always make sense in the moment.
As nurses we've also seen families fight amongst themselves over which way to proceed once it becomes clear the person isn't going to recover from the event or illness. One thing comes through loud and clear is that when the patient has not made decisions and has not discussed wishes even on a very hypothetical basis, it's even harder to have to make decisions for them. And when no one person or persons is made the DPOAHC (durable power of attorney for health care), families can completely destruct over who's making the decision and why? All this at a time when they need the love and support of each other.
Caution: Graphic Explanation Follows
A common conversation among nurses is often, "where shall I tattoo NO CPR? On my forehead or my chest?" Let's get some facts straight. Resuscitation is painful both physically and emotionally!! And the pain can last for a very long time and hinder any possible recovery. Ribs can easily be broken and organs punctured which complicate the process. Even without that possibility, it's painful to have a 200+ pound paramedic pouncing on your chest for any length of time! Using paddles to shock the body sends a painful electrical shock wave through your whole body.
And there are risks depending on how long the patient has been "down" prior to the CPR as well as the effectiveness of the CPR to circulate blood and oxygen to the brain and vital organs. What will the outcome be if the patient is brought back? Will there be tubes needed? A ventilator to support breathing? What extent of brain damage has been done? Has the heart suffered major damage? How will all of this affect the quality of life? Will there be anger or regrets?
What if I Want Everything Done?
YES, you and your loved ones have every right to demand that everything possible be done under any circumstances. And those decisions have to be honored as much as any other end-of-life decision. They can be faith based, fear based, ignorance based as well as based on your own desire to live forever. But they need to be made known to your loved ones and healthcare team as much as any other take on the subject to ensure they are followed.
On the other hand, if you do NOT wish to have heroic measures taken, you have the right to have those wishes followed as well. Advance Directives can be made as specific and complex as you desire. Or they can be vague and give your proxy to your an agent of your choosing to make the best decision based on the situation at hand.
These decisions need to be made and discussed with your loved ones LONG BEFORE there is a need to implement them. This is not just for those who are old or are in poor health. If you got hit by a bus crossing the street and complications set in, what path do you want your health care team to take? And is your family prepared to comply with your wishes? Have that discussion with your loved ones Today. Make informed choices. There are NO right or wrong answers, but the questions and options need to be discussed.
Further Reading:
Today's the Day to Talk About How You Want to Die
Advanced Care Planning Resources
End of Life: Helping with Comfort and Care
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