Monday, April 14, 2025

Take Charge and Ensire Your Birthday is the Best

One thing we all have in common is birthdays. We each were birthed from a mother and we each have that special day every year to celebrate us. The details and circumstances are unique to each of us, but we all have birthdays. And we all have the power to make them great birthdays. We deserve it! Take charge and ensure your birthday is the best. 

 How we celebrate, why we celebrate and If we celebrate are also details unique to each of us. I just finished a thought provoking book, How to Have a Happy Birthday Create Meaning, Fulfillment and Joy on Your Special Day by Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming. I was offered the chance to read and review this great book. It's available in Audio, Kindle, Paperback and Hard Cover from Amazon.com. 

If you've ever experienced the Best birthday, the absolute Worst birthday, and many others in between with a whole variety of circumstances and emotions, this will be a great read! Tamar shares her own experiences as well as those from friends, family, colleagues and even strangers she interviewed. I can relate to several instances along the spectrum from the best to worst and in between. 

She shares this book with others in hopes that they will be able to take charge and be responsible for their own birthday experiences. Tamar urges others to "take ownership of your birthday to ensure you have the best possible day. Let yourself be happy and you’ll see how happy your birthday can be!"  

It all seems simple enough, but I know all too well that unless I take charge of it, the daya can go off the rails, be disappointing, not measure up to my hopes and dreams, and I will have allowed myself to be obsessed with perfectionism. The book is filled with great ideas for self-care that can extend far beyond the one day to celebrate You! 


I have a few months before my next birthday, and I'm glad I read this book and have time to change my attitude and hopefully have much better birthdays in my future. For each of you, I have the some hope. Happy Birthday! 

P.S. Make someone else's birthday special and gift them a copy. 

First published on TheNursingSite.com by Kathy Quan RN BSN PHN

  

 

Friday, March 21, 2025

Honors for AboutAgingParents.com

 


Exciting News! I have been informed that this blog has been selected by Feedspot.com as one of the Top 60 Aging Blogs. Check out the entire list. I am humbled and honored to be recognized among such great blogs.

 

Thursday, February 13, 2025

Harmony at Home: How to Make Multi-generational Living Work

 


Living in a multi-generational home with grandparents, parents, and children under one roof can be both a challenge and a gift. When done right, it strengthens family bonds, creates a sense of belonging, and even makes financial sense. The key to making multi-generational living work? Finding the right balance between privacy and connection. By embracing shared responsibilities, open communication, and a mix of tradition and modern solutions, families can create harmony in a a space where every generation feels at home.  

Clear Clutter with Digital Organization With multiple generations under one roof, space can get tight fast. One simple way to cut down on clutter is by digitizing important documents. Turning paperwork into digital files frees up space and makes it so much easier to stay organized. With tools for a free PDF converter, you can save everything from medical records to family recipes on a shared drive instead of digging through stacks of paper. Free online tools make organization effortless, keeping your home tidy and stress-free.  

Bring Generations Together Through Cooking Few things bring people together like food. Setting up weekly family cooking nights is a great way to bond while passing down traditions. Grandparents can share treasured recipes, while younger family members introduce new flavors and techniques. These gatherings are more than just about food—they’re about storytelling, teamwork, and preserving cultural heritage. Plus, cooking together naturally leads to healthier eating habits since meals are homemade and often more nutritious. It’s a delicious way to connect, learn, and create lasting memories. 

 Use Technology to Stay Connected Technology can make it easier for different generations to stay connected—when it’s used the right way. Group chats and shared calendars help keep everyone on the same page, from planning get-togethers to sharing little daily updates. But screens shouldn’t take the place of real conversations, so setting some boundaries is key. Using secure platforms keeps things private while making communication simple. When there’s a good mix of digital and in-person connection, technology becomes a helpful tool instead of a constant distraction.  

Start a Family Business Together One of the best ways to bond and bring in extra income is by launching a family business. Think about low-cost ventures like drop shipping, handmade crafts, or even a small online store that everyone can contribute to in some way. Having a plan that lays out who’s doing what, what the goals are, and how the money works makes everything a lot easier. Setting up a California LLC through ZenBusiness adds a layer of protection, so you’re not worrying about personal assets if things get messy. But really, a family business is about more than just making money—it’s about figuring things out together, learning as you go, and creating something that actually means something.  

Make Life Easier with Smart Home Features Smart home tech isn’t just for the younger crowd—it can make life easier for everyone. Voice assistants can handle reminders, shopping lists, and even play music or audio books. Smart thermostats and lights make things more convenient while cutting down on energy use. For older family members, automated lighting and security features add an extra layer of safety and independence. When it’s set up right, a smart home helps everyone, from kids to grandparents, feel more comfortable and connected.  

Design Shared Spaces with Everyone in Mind A home that feels right for every generation comes down to thoughtful design. It’s about creating a balance—space to be together and space to be alone when needed. Mixing in artwork, music, and books from different eras adds character and keeps family history alive. A warm, inviting living room or a dining area that works for everything from meals to game nights helps bring everyone together. When the layout makes sense for all ages, the home feels natural, comfortable, and connected.  

Turn the Backyard into a Learning Space A great way to keep younger family members engaged is by creating a backyard garden. Gardening teaches kids about responsibility, patience, and the environment while giving older generations a chance to pass down their knowledge. Getting the whole family involved in planting, tending, and harvesting turns the process into a shared experience. Plus, it’s a great way to enjoy fresh, homegrown produce. Spending time outdoors and working together strengthens bonds while promoting a healthy lifestyle.  

Strengthen Family Ties Through Community Involvement Spending time together outside the house makes a big difference. Volunteering, joining a community garden, or just showing up for local events brings everyone closer and makes life feel more connected. Even simple things like a walk in the park, an outdoor movie, or helping out at a charity event can turn into great memories. Getting involved in the community doesn’t just strengthen family bonds—it also makes home feel like part of something bigger. 

Living in a multi-generational home means balancing independence and connection. The ultimate goal is to blend tradition with modern comforts while making room for both personal space and shared moments. The proper design, a little smart tech, and quality time together can help create a home that works for everyone. It’s no longer just a house when each person feels valued and supported—it’s a home where everyone can truly thrive.  

Navigate the challenges of caring for aging loved ones confidently—visit AgingParents.com for expert advice, compassionate support, and practical tools to bring peace to your family today.

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Thursday, January 2, 2025

Happy New Year 2025!

Another new year is upon us. Happy New Year 2025! I hope you all had Happy Holidays whatever you celebrate and are settling in to more normal times. The news was scary yesterday with the terrorist attack in New Orleans and the explosion of the Tesla truck in Las Vegas in front of Trump Tower. I hope this is not an indication of how 2025 is going to go!!! Hoping for a much more peaceful year throughout the world!

Dealing with aging relatives and being sandwiched between caring for them and your growing children and or grandchildren presents enough challenges and issues! Please be sure to take time for YOU! Make that one of your goals, intentions,  and even resolutions for this new year. Resolutions tend to fade quickly as a new year presents itself, so I really tend to push the ideas of goals and intentions. These you can revisit daily, weekly or monthly and make them actually happen! Self care is so very important as you cannot give from an empty well.You must take time out and do something to replenish your strength and energy! 

One way of working on self-care is to journal about your experiences. Journals can be private and personal or you can choose to share them with your trusted humans. They often carry a connotation of being something more complex that you may feel you do not have time for with your overwhelming responsibilities. But might I suggest an easy one for you...

I needed something short and simple for myself and from my memory banks as a nurse I dug out some ideas to design my own. Something that I have always suggested to new and seasoned nurses is to write down those moments with patients that make your day. Of course nurses have to be acutely aware of confidentiality and HIPAA regulations, so we have to get creative about capturing the moment and keeping the details secret. I hope I have made a journal that could work for you as well. 

There are plenty of pages for each month of a calendar year. Each month there is one page for jotting down Daily Gratitudes. Just a word or phrase that makes sense to you. 

Then there a few lined pages for the month to write a few short sentences or paragraphs about good memories as they happen. One thing I know for certain about caring for my aging parents and in-laws as well as adult children and grandchildren is that during overwhelming and stressful time, you don't remember things as clearly. Some of the great moments might be in there somewhere, but my brain seems like it lost them. Taking just a few minutes before bedtime even just to write down a few cryptic notes helps me hang on to things I do remember from the past as well as new memories from each day. 

Journaling can actually help you to relax and release tension, stress and emotions. It can also help you to brainstorm and find solutions, and share the successes you have experienced in dealing with aging parents. Bookmark important passages so you can look back and see how well you have managed the journey, important memories, and tips for making your journey easier!

My Self-Care Journal
is available on Amazon.com in paperback format. The price was recently reduced. If you make a purchase, I'd greatly appreciate it if you'd come back and write a quick review. Or drop a comment here. And of course share the link with someone you know who could use some self-care too! 

Here's to a more stress-free new year!

Happy 2025!